20221115 To kill a mockingbird (for parents / psychotherapists)
I became a parent a year ago (on Thursday!) and will – hopefully – receive a diploma to practice psychotherapy in around another two years. With that in mind, here's a great little chunk of dialogue from Harper Lee’s classic, which I’ve just somehow found time to re-read. What a Jem (geddit?). There’s an exchange early in the book between six year old Scout and her father, Atticus. Scout is upset after an unhappy first day at school. Her father (knowingly or not) gives her a lovely bit of person-centred counselling (2006, p.32). He starts with an open question: ‘Something wrong, Scout?’ No leading. He leaves ‘an amiable silence’ for her to answer. Carl Rogers would approve. This gives her a chance to collect her thoughts – he doesn't rush her or feel a need to fill the silence. When she declares she 'didn't think I'd go to school any more if it's all right with him' he tells her he’s legally bound to send her to school in a non-judgemental, congruent way: ‘...